the PURSUIT of HAPPYNESS

A small talk between a man and a boy, a father and a son...

Chris (father): Don't ever to let someone tell you, 'you can't do something'.. Not even me, alright?
Christopher (son): Alright.
Chris: You got a dream, you got to protect it. People can't do something themselves, they want to tell you, you can't do it. You want something, go and get it. Prove it.

A touching and yet motivating movie. To tell us about a true story of a father who tries his best to overcome the worst of his life and yet to give the best to his son.

" It was right then I started to thinking about Thomas Jefferson with Declaration of Independence. In the part of our right to our life, liberty and pursuit of happiness. I remembered, I'd been thinking how did he know to put the pursuit part in there. And may be happiness is something that we only can pursue and may be we can actually never have it, no matter what. How did he know? ".
This is what in Chris's mind when his wife left him, brought along his son. Nothing was left to him besides the unpaid taxes, house rents and bills...

Yes, happiness is to be pursued.
There is no way to happiness as happiness is the way.
Happiness is never a DESTINATION but a JOURNEY.

And Chris has proved it!

Thanks to Chris who teaches me the meaning of life and the worth of living. ~Joel

想飞越

我站在镜子前

决定放下一切

一个人走在去留边缘

镜里我的脸

迷了途的眼

要完全放下我的心才发现

想飞越

这陌生的感觉

不想在我和另一个我之间

日夜换不同的脸

我想要飞

无悔的那一种感觉

从前的难以妥协

如今却放太宽的界限

能不能让我飞越自己

昨天那道地平线

我想要飞

飞向更远~Joel

A Message

My dear friend,

------------Thanks for always being there. ---------------

------------------Being a great friend--------------------

------------I am touched. Million thanks.-----------------

------------------Wish you Xing Fu-------------------Natalie

Right or Left?

I remember a quote from 'Little Prince' goes by: “It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.” And,

"You have to trust your inner knowing. If you have a clear mind...you won't have to search for direction. Direction will come to you. "

The external world and people might be cruel and cold sometimes. Well, my dear, it's alright. Let's close up our tiring sore eyes, and feel with our pure heart. We'll see where it leads us to...We'll see. //Natalie

Andrew Rocks

Since the beginning of November, I have been looking for clue here and there. And searching for answer high and low. Until Andrew text me these few lines:

"Sometimes we ask for wind, we get rain;
We ask for sunshine, we get storm.
The truth is, it's really up to us to look for the wind in the rain;
And the sunshine in the strom..."

He reminded me of a song lyric I heard a day before in Evelyn's car. So I replied him:

"Every road has its stones; just like every night has its dawn..."

And, Andrew rocks, he assured me that, "And the stone is the foundation for a good road; dawn may be boring, but stars and moon will always be around you till the next reel of sunshine!" Hooray-----:)//Natalie

Vote for Nana

Nana is running for (fluff)election. Come vote for her, thanks!=)

Stop Pathologizing Yourself

Worn out. Flat. Down. Moody. Bloated. Whatever...I just cannot descibe my feeling right now. Slap me on my face to wake me up please...=)

Read an interesting article on Ms. Magazine site, titled "Pathologizing Your Period", which began with "Are you unhappy? Bloated? Is hard to concentrate? Do you have food craving? Breast tenderness?...Sounds familiar? Yes for me. When my eyes dropped on this line, my mind went saying, "Arh, that period from ovulation to menstruation again, the time you have it all." Which I dread the most.

The article goes on introducing Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD), a mental disorder included in DSM, which represent the extreme form of PMS, a classical syndrome during pre-menstruation. To qualify, it would have to include five familiar PMS-type symptoms, at least one of them a “mood disorder” such as feeling hopeless, “on edge,” self-deprecating, irritable, angry or tearful. Is PMDD real? The author questioned about it and even went extra miles to defend women against being labelled as moody and emotional. And, in the end, she called on us to stop pathologizing ourselves and look at what's really behind our feelings. =)

So true...I probably should stop pathologizing myself right now. I have been in dilemma past few days. As Joel has mentioned, I need a quiet place to listen to my inner voice. I need to know what I want. And how I should do better. I've been losing my grip lately...but I am going to stand up, lift chin, and be confident all over again. =)

Likened in a race, I am not sure how far and how fast should I run? And what I want to achieve in the end? It look like a never ending track with crooks and bends. As I remind myself , 'Life does not ask us to be the Biggest or the Tallest, it only ask that we Try.' And, I should try, giving up before trying is stupid, one will never know his potential as the sky is the limit.

Push on Nat. Just stand up. =)

Make A Wish

Happy birthday to me,
Happy birthday to me,
Happy birthday to Joel,
Happy birthday to me......

Make a wish.......(secret)

and blow the candles!!!!

Ops....no candles??:P

Listen to your heart

If you follow the world, you 'll lose your way.
To follow your way, it is to not follow the world.

Always have faith in what you are doing and to believe in oneself.

Spend a quiet moment to listen to what your mind tells you and not others.

You will find a way to lead your life.~Joel